#23 Children and Parents

We are all children of our parents. Inside us are very powerful instincts to have a relationship with our parents. Automatic bonding takes place without a conscious decision.

Even many children who are adopted would go to great lengths to try to learn who their real biological parents are.

We are innately constituted in our very being to having a loving relationship with our parents. This is a win-win relationship for everyone. If our parents are mentally, emotionally, and spiritually healthy and we are in a loving relationship with them, then the odds are huge that we will be healthy also. Even the community around us will benefit.

But this is also a lose-lose proposition. If the parents are immature, then they become an upper limit on their children’s maturity. If the parents are abusive, then the odds are that the children will also become abusive.

The parent-child relationship is so much of an underlying foundation for our existence that if we are abandoned emotionally and spiritually as children, we will have serious psychological consequences and may even never recover.

The highest revealed understanding of the nature of God is that of a loving Father and Mother, i.e. parents. 

If one does not have God in their life, they are abandoned like a child. He or she is consciously or unconsciously on a search to fill the empty space in that deep inner part of their being.

Many substitutes appear such as money, knowledge, power, sex, or fame which seem for a while to fill the emptiness. But none of them will ever truly satisfy the place reserved for God in our lives. They eventually will be recognized for what they are, false gods.

Sadness, emptiness, bitterness, and resentment, and usually pain are all the results of chasing after these false gods.

It’s either a win-win or a lose-lose for each person having a relationship with God. We are designed to exist in a loving relationship with God, our eternal parents. Nothing else will ultimately satisfy our hearts.

There must be a God.

PS:  Allow me to share the final two paragraphs from a recent book I read, Life In Eternity.

“…as I looked at the sleepy faces of those sitting and standing all around me, I gasped in instantaneous tears. For as I discerned each person’s face -- whether that of a child, a young adult, an older man, or a beautiful woman, as well as the faces of many other people from all walks of life -- I became instantly conscious of two extraordinary realities. In the first nanosecond, I saw each human face expressing the sense of being lost and all the myriad pain of disorientation, and the ongoing suffering involved in the lifetime struggle to overcome an unknown amnesia and to live a conscientious life. In the next nanosecond, I saw how much, how desperately, how passionately God loves each person, how tremendously much God longed to be able to assuage each man’s and each woman’s pain, how much God desired to restore to each person the sense, the living reality of his or her own true identity as an authentic son or daughter of God -- and to reassure each person that they were not only immeasurably loved by God but, as God’s child, he or she had a truly cosmic identity as a Being of LOVE, potentially capable of exercising unlimited power to create. I felt so much of God’s heart to rescue us, to embrace each of us, so much of God’s yearning to reassure us, to heal us -- so that we could finally be immersed in the cosmic joy that in our original birthright.

Slowly, as I stepped back from this realization, I stopped crying. And I simply knew then that, however many dozens, or hundreds, or thousands, or millions of years it might take, God would walk with us every step of the way, that God would recover all of us as His children, who could finally and triumphantly declare: WE HAVE AWAKENED! WE DO KNOW WHO WE ARE! WE ARE THE SONS AND DAUGHTERS OF GOD!” [1]

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[1] Life In Eternity: Human Beings in the Spirit World, by Kerry Pobanz. 2012, ISBN 978-1-105-65604-0